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When It’s Time to Make A Change


Too often people get barrelled along by automatic thoughts and behaviours. When enough is enough and it’s time for a change, the degree of change can be overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be.

People aren’t one-dimensional. We are a product of thoughts, actions and feelings. To effect change, we only need to change one – a thought, a feeling or a behaviour. The other two will catch up when they become the best option.

One way people undermine their capacity for change is by trying to change too much all at once. It just gets too hard. When things get too hard, the old and familiar send out their siren’s song, persuading us back to old habits with astounding ease. It’s just the way it is. The more willpower that’s needed, the quicker it will be spent. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. 

But there is another way.

Depending on the circumstances, it’s likely that there will be one aspect – a thought, a feeling, or a behaviour – that will be easier and more amenable to change. Choose that one and change will happen. 

If you don’t want to be the person you were this time last year, or last week or five minutes ago then don’t be.

The change doesn’t have to be absolute. Just change one thing – one small thing – and something new will come. It doesn’t matter how minor or trivial the change may seem. Just start, and you’ll already be ahead of the ones who decided it wasn’t worth it.

Every choice you make is the one you want to be making. Think about that.

Everything you need will already be inside you. Same place it’s been all along all along. You’ve got this.


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