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Dealing with Anxiety: Using the Strength of an Anxious Mind to Calm Anxiety

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Dealing with Anxiety: Using the Strength of an Anxious Mind to Calm Anxiety

An anxious mind is a strong, powerful mind, as anyone who has tried to rationalise themselves out of anxiety will tell you. An anxious mind can outrun, outpower and outwit rationality and logic any day of the week. What if you could harness the strength and power of that fiercely protective mind and use it to work for you instead of against you? 

Anxiety exists on a spectrum and we all experience it at some level. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. Anxiety is a very normal response from a strong, healthy brain that thinks there might be trouble about, and instantly responds by making us stronger, faster, more powerful, more alert versions of ourselves.

Like any good thing though, too much is too much. When the brain is oversensitive to threat, it puts us on high alert even when there is no need to be. This is when anxiety becomes intrusive and hard to live with. It turns from the gentle security guard who shows up when needed, to the crasher who steals the joy, tells stories about nameless dangerous things, and cozies up beside you so close it’s hard to breathe, think and be.

Why is anxiety so powerful?

Anxiety is there to keep us safe. It is a call to action to fight or flee so we can move through danger. It’s there to keep us out of the way of trouble so the signals it sends have to be strong. The problem is that those signals aren’t always accurate. Anxiety is instinctive and automatic. It’s been practising its moves for thousands of years. That’s the thing about evolution – sometimes it works for us, sometimes it makes us vulnerable to anxiety. 

Anxiety was never meant to get in our way, but rather, to get us out of the way of danger. The part of the brain that drives anxiety thinks it’s doing the right thing. The more we fight it, the harder it will work to convince us that there’s danger and that we need to act. 

So if fighting an anxious mind doesn’t work, what then?

We know that an anxious mind is a strong, powerful mind. What if we could harness the strength and power of that fiercely protective mind and use it to work for us instead of against us? As strong as a mind can be in its experience of anxiety, it can be equally strong in calming it. Anxiety might still show up, but rather than appearing as the wolf at the door and sending your fiercely protective brain into a panic, it can be greeted more in the way of, ‘Oh hey there – I know you. Take a seat over there.’

We know that over time, mindfulness works to build and strengthen a brain against anxiety, but there are aspects of mindfulness that can be used in the midst of anxiety to find calm. With practice, they can be called on at will to turn down the volume on anxious thoughts and feelings, and any other symptoms that anxiety tends to keep company with. 

But go gently …

Changing mindset involves small, repeated steps. Each step builds on the one before it, and this takes time. That’s okay though – there’s no hurry. Remember, your mind has been doing what it’s doing for a while and it will take a while to unlearn its habits.

Those habits have had a good reason for being there. Anxious thoughts and anxious feelings keep us alive. They put us on standby to deal with anything that gets in the way. It’s going to take some convincing to show them that actually, the only thing getting in the way, are them.

Don’t try to do all of these strategies at once. Trying to keep a hold of so many different things will make your mind do the equivalent of throwing its hands in the air and walking away. Instead, choose one at a time and do it for a short while at a time. Small steps, but important ones. If you try to do them all at once, there is the risk of it feeling too hard. When things feel difficult, it is normal to run back to what’s familiar. The way around this is to go gently. Here’s how …

Dealing with Anxiety – Using the power of an anxious mind. 

Anxiety is the power of the mind against the mind. That power is your greatest asset – and it’s an exceptional one. Now to claim it back so you can use it in a way that will build and strengthen you.

  1. Be present. Be where you are, not where your anxiety wants to take you.

    Anxiety works by using a solid collection of ‘what-ifs’ and ‘maybes’ to haul even the strongest, bravest mind from a present that feels manageable and calm, to a future that feels uncertain and threatening. Experiment with staying fully present in the moment. Anchor yourself by opening up your senses. What do you see, feel, hear, taste, know? Stay with what is actually happening, rather than what might happen. If this feels uncomfortable, put a time limit on it, let’s say, two minutes to start with. Spend this time fully experiencing the world as it is around you now.

    Every time you do this, you will be strengthening your ability to pull back from the anxious thoughts that steal you away from the safety and security of where you are. Try to get into a regular practice each day, for however long you can – two minutes, five minutes, ten minutes – it doesn’t matter. There’s no right amount, but the longer the better. The main thing is to keep doing it. The brain strengthens and rewires with experience, and this is an experience that is so strengthening and healthy, your brain will love for it. 

    Try: ‘Right now, I’m here and I’m safe. I see the sky. I feel the breeze against my skin. I hear my footsteps’

  2. Be patient. Don’t be in a hurry to change your thoughts and feelings.

    Thoughts and feelings will come, they will stay, and then they will go. No thought or feeling stays forever. Be patient and know that whatever you are feeling, or whatever you are thinking, it will pass.

    Experiment with being fully present, without needing to push away any thoughts or feelings. There is no anxious feeling and no anxious thought that is stronger than you. However big they feel, you will always be stronger and more resilient. Be patient. Be open. Be curious. See what wisdom lies at the end of your anxious thoughts and feelings if you stay with them, rather than fight them. Let them stay for long enough to realise that you have no need for them today. 

     Try: ‘An anxious thought. That’s okay – you’ll leave when you’re ready.’

  3. Be an observer. Watch your thoughts and feelings without engaging with them. 

    Anxiety has a way of drawing you in and making you engage with every anxious thought that comes in thinking distance of you. It’s exhausting! Experiment with standing back and watching your thoughts as an observer, knowing that when they are ready, they will pass. Sometimes we need to engage with thoughts and feelings, and sometimes we need to stand back and wait for them move on. Try imagining your thoughts and feelings as a bubble, and then watch them float by.

    Experiment with letting them be, without needing to change them, understand them, or talk yourself out of them. Imagine them hovering in the air around you, without becoming a part of you. Just let them be, without holding on too tightly. When they are ready to go, let them go. Think of it like this – rather than standing in the middle of a thunderstorm, trying to change the direction of the wind, imagine yourself watching that storm through a window, knowing that it will pass. 

    Try: ‘There’s a thought about what might happen if it rains on the holiday. Look at that. Didn’t know that was there.’

    ‘A feeling about going to the interview. Interesting.’

  4. Trust your anxiety. Know that it won’t hurt you. 

    There are a lot of reasons anxiety feels so awful. Two of the big ones are because it comes with a bunch of ‘unknowns’, and because the physical feelings don’t make sense. A curious, strong, thoughtful mind will try to put these feelings and thoughts in context, because the idea that they are free-floating and not attached to anything feels even worse. You might find yourself wondering if your physical symptoms are a sign of something more serious. You might wonder if that ‘bad feeling’ means something bad is actually going to happen. You might worry about the worry (this is common with anxiety) – what’s driving it, how to you stop it.  that your anxiety isn’t a sign of something bigger. This is hard to do but the more you practice it, the stronger you will be at calming your anxious thoughts and not believing the messages they contact. Anxiety is there as a warning, not a prediction. Feel the security and safety of what that means for you.

    Try: ‘My heart feels as though it is pounding through my chest. This is anxiety. It’s not a symptom of something bigger. I’m safe.’

  5. Trust yourself. You are strong. You are resourceful. You will cope. You always have.

    Trust that whatever happens, you can deal with it – because you can, you absolutely can. This might not feel real for you at first, and that’s okay. Go with it and see what the experience has to give you. This is a learning process and it will take time. Underlying all worry, anxiety and stress is fear that we won’t be able to cope. Fear of failure, for example isn’t fear of the failure but fear that you won’t cope with the failure. Ditto for rejection, making a wrong decision – anything. You will cope. You’ve proven it over and over. See what happens when you move towards trusting that. If it doesn’t feel real, pretend until it does. From the outside it will look the same anyway.

    Try: ‘Whatever happens, I will cope. I always have.’ 

  6. Meet your anxiety where it is, without needing you or it to be different. 

    It’s paradoxical, but sometimes, the more we try to change something the more energy we give it, and the more it stays the same. (Keep telling yourself not to think of pink gorillas. Try really hard not to think of them. Keep telling yourself to stop thinking of pink gorillas. See how that works?) Anxious thoughts take up a lot of precious head space. They draw on our feelings, focus, thoughts and imagination. The more we try to make sense of them and control them, the more they feed into anxiety. Instead, experiment with being with your anxiety as it is, without needing to change it. Acceptance doesn’t make a feeling stronger or more enduring. It stops giving it energy.

    What you focus on is what becomes powerful. The more you focus on something, the more it flourishes and expands.Try to be with your anxiety without pushing against it. Don’t force it to go or to be different than it is. This will let you understand your anxiety more, which will bring it out of the dark and into a space in which you can deal with it.

    This isn’t easy, but it’s powerful. Try it in little bits and work up from there. Start with letting your feelings be as they are for two minutes, or however long feels okay for you. Sit with them, without needing them to be different. Then if you want to, after that you can give them your attention and try to turn them into something else. When you can, let them be as they are again. See how this feels, then when you’re ready, work up to longer.

    Try: ‘I am having a worried thought. My hands are clammy. My mouth is dry. This is anxiety]. And that’s okay.’

  7. Clear your filter.

    Messages and experiences from the past have a way of changing the filter through which we look at the rest of the world. This is the way it works for all of us – anxiety or no anxiety.

    Try to approach experiences and moments as though you are experiencing them for the first time. Even if you have been in many similar situations before, none of them will be exactly like this one. Notice the differences between what is and what has been. With every experience, you are changed somehow – wiser, braver, stronger, more capable, sometimes more anxious, more worried, more fearful. Be open to the new possibilities that can come from this new experience, because that’s what it is – a new experience.

    For example, if you have had a painful breakup, there might be a tendency to hold back from loving wholeheartedly again. New people and new relationships might feel risky. This is completely understandable, and staying away is a move that will keep you safe, but it will close down the possibilities and promise that are waiting for you to find them. Growth happens when we open ourselves up to ‘what is’, rather than letting new experiences be coloured by ‘what has been’. 

    Try: ‘This is a brand new experience. I’m open to discovering what will unfold for me here.’

    ‘This reminds me of all the times I’ve had to meet new people. These people are different. I’m different. This experience is different.’

  8. Surrender. Let go of the need for certainty, even if it’s just for a moment.  

    The future is always uncertain, so anxiety has a pretty easy time of causing a stir. Not everything will go to plan and that’s okay, but the more we try to control things, the more we tend to realise how little control we have. This will feel uncomfortable at first, so start with surrendering to the uncertainty for a small amount of time. Experiment with letting go of needing to control the moment, the future, the past, or the people around you. The more you are able to lean in to your uncertainty and tolerate it, the less power it will have over you.

    Try: ‘I don’t know what will happen if I have to change plans. And that’s okay.’

And finally …

Think of these strategies like drops in a bucket. The first time you try them, you might not notice much. Same with the second time, and the third time. Eventually though, the more you experiment with them and the more you use them, the more capacity you will have to harness the strength of your wild and beautiful mind and make it work more in your favour. You will learn that you will always have what it takes and that anxiety is a feeling that comes and then it will go, just like a bad weather day. You’re a fighter – you’ve been fighting anxiety and winning for a while now. You’re strong, brave and resilient and you have everything you need inside you to deal with anything that might stand in your way. 

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51 Comments

Sydney

Great article!

I was an anxious person at one time but for some reason I’ve moved past it and came to realize that no amount of worrying will change anything. Sounds simple but It clicked in and has stayed in place.

If I’m with a friend having a drink or coffee or lunch and through a conversation that friend expresses anxiety about an experience how do I validate her anxiety and offer some comfort. Nothing is worse to someone who is worrying to hear “quit worrying”.

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Etta

First and foremost listen to what your friend has to say. I hate when I want just to have someone to listen to me and they think they have to give advice or try to fix it. Also if you know of something hard that they went through gently remind them of that. Give them some helpful resources to check out ie like this site , on their own. Hope these ideas help

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Miurgen

I agree with Etta. What a person suffering from anxiety needs the most is being listened to, without being patronized or judged. The simple act of talking is a great source of healing and knowing the other person is really listening, comforts the anxiety sufferer and makes them feel less alone.

You don’t need to agree, just be offer some strategies to cope, just as the ones in this articles. Offer to be there to listen, to keep company. Knowing that one is not alone in the world can help a lot.

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Avril

Brilliant article! I’m really open about my anxiety as it’s been pivotal in the creation of http://www.feelbrave.com but I’m surprised at how I’m finding out about how many other people experience it! And I’m also surprised that no matter how much I think I know anxiety, it still takes me by surprise and can out wit me. Articles like this are so valuable to stay fresh on how to accept, manage and live it it. Thank you!

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Julia

Great article which supports what I’ve been doing so there may be hope for me yet!

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Charles

I must say I came across this wonderful article at the perfect time. I am currently in a toxic relationship which really weighs me down. She gives off all the negative energy you can imagine. I know that it’s time to move away from her for good.

Anyway it’s amazing how these strategies work, I actually feel an immediate relief. I apply the floating bubble and watching storm through a window techniques and I feel the tension leaving instantly. Each time I feel anxious, I apply them.

I know it might take a while but I’m gonna keep working on it. I really need to.

Many thanks.

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Hey Sigmund

You’re so welcome Charles. I’m pleased the strategies are giving you what you need. Keep working on it – every time you do, you’re getting stronger.

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Loretta

Thank you for an excellent article and thank you Charles for your comment. I find myself breaking away from a very toxic relationship at present and for the past 12 months! However, I haven’t gone as far as not going back to this man and I think it may be because I haven’t learned how to quieten down my anxiety. I’m definitely going to put the steps in place and find out the difference of how I am feeling and dealing with everything.
Many thanks.

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Hey Sigmund

Loretta, what you are saying makes sense. Anxiety can get in the way of all sorts of important decisions. I love that you are trying these. See what you can do when your anxiety is hushed a little – it will be strong and life-giving I’m sure.

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Kath

Exactly what I needed to read this week; each point resonated as much as the one before. Printed for future reference. Thank you!

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Jasmin

This was sent to me by a dear friend. I have suffered from complex anxiety disorder coupled with other major psychiatric illnesses, since childhood. (I am in my mid 60’s).
The article was stimulating and confirmed all that I have been trying to do , especially over the last 20 years.
Unfortunately, my anxiety is coupled with extreme fear and I am now institutionalize, in a nursing home, which I am finding so very difficult.
Loneliness and not fitting in have taken their toll, especially only sleeping for about 2-3 hours each night.
Psychiatrist here is trying hard to support me, but I feel hopeless, even though practicing cognitive and mindfulness.
Any Suggestions – need support.
Thanks for the great advice – excellent article but fear I have come too far. Long story and not appropriate to discuss here.
Thanks Sigmund

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Hey Sigmund

Jasmin I wish so much that you could have received the support you needed for your anxiety when you were younger. Anxiety is something that is becoming more understood, but when you were a child, there wasn’t as much information available about how best to manage anxiety. Your anxiety would be made worse by your loneliness and your lack of sleep – what we know now is that social connection and sleep are really important for an anxious brain. It sounds as though you are under the care of a great psychiatrist, and that you are now getting the support that you need. Keep working with your psychiatrist and practicing mindfulness – both of those are really important. On top of this, are you able to exercise at all? Even if it is walking around the garden outside for 30 minutes at a time. Also, are you able to do something with other people? Are you able to join a group activity or spend time with other people whenever you can? The social connection will really help. Anything you can keep doing will make a difference.

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Jasmin

Thank you so much.
I am doing all the things that you have suggested -tying to do activities (have my own tailored Program from DT) but told that sometimes I am trying too hard.
Social interaction is very difficult here – I don’t fit in even when I try to join in – not many Australians here and I am so scared of people in general -a very unusual but REAL fear -even of the cleaners; carers;nurses;residents and especially management.
Was staying in my room and in bed all the time, but now going downstairs for breakfast but in quiet area by myself; joining in groups; walking making cards; journeling again;am a volunteer here ;reading; playing games with group of women some afternoons and attending different group activities.
Still does not help with the fear and so scared of being judged and consequences of reporting staff that I remain silent.
Have passed on the e/mail you sent to me to the Social Worker, hoping she will show manager.
They wanted to give me a Leucotomy when I was in my late 20’s -3 psychiatrists had to agree and they all did, but my mother said no as it was major brain surgery and no indication could be given about how I would be after the surgery.
The warmest of thanks for what you do -I was going to be an ambassador for The Black Dog -Prof. Mitchell had included me in 2 of his studies, but I became too ill -combination of back injury (major surgery) and psych problems -in and out of psych hospitals, ending up in nursing home.
Again, warmest thanks
Jasmin

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Hey Sigmund

Jasmin you’re so welcome. I love that you are moving outside of your room and having some time with other people. I completely understand why fear of consequences would keep you quiet. It’s awful feeling silenced like that. I’m pleased you have shown the social worker – hopefully she will be able to help you get the support you need. There is a wonderful strength in you – I can hear it in your words. Keep fighting for you. You’re so worth it. Love and strength to you.

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Kerry

Reading this article tonight has given me hope, that I can get thru this Anxiety that is secretly debilitating me with the simplest of everyday mundane acts of life. The highs the lows the not really getting it yourself trying to make sense of why you can’t do the most simplest of tasks. I feel so much more reassured that the strength of my mind and with time & practice turn this anxiety around.

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

Kerry I’m so pleased you found the article. I completely understand how intrusive anxiety can be. Know how strong your mind is – now it’s about making it work for you. I hope that you are able to find comfort soon.

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Joanne

I had my 1st panic attack 10 years ago while I was driving on the highway. Thinking I was having a heart attack I pulled over and called 911. I was looked over by doctors and found to be in good health and it was explained away as a panic attack. For years since then I was free of anxiety but over the past 2 years I have been experiencing great anxiety when I highway drive or know I have to… it almost is like having flashbacks to the panic attack years ago. This is affecting my job and my life in general. I need support and suggestions on how to cope. This article has given me someplace to start.
Thanks!

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

You’re so welcome Joanne. Panic attacks are awful any time – I can only imagine how frightening it would be when one comes to you on a highway. The mind and body are powerful and can remember things instantly, making us feel as though they are happening all over again. Just as powerful as they are in triggering an attack, they can also be powerful in soothing one. You have a strong mind. I hope the strategies in this article are able to bring you comfort. Here is another article that might help explain the physical part of your panic attacks, which feel awful and can create panic about the possibility of another panic attack http://www.heysigmund.com/dealing-with-anxiety/. And here is another article that will explain the relaxation response http://www.heysigmund.com/managing-anxiety/, which is something that might be able to help you through when your panic attacks.

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gillian moore

A lovely article and a very helpful one to those who:

a) are relatively young
b) live in the West (USA, Canada, Europe, Australia and New Zealand) where psychological issues can be dealt with. I for one live in the Arab World, where psychology is not yet being dealt with due to the fact that psychiatrists have “no market” if so I may put it. A person with a psychological issue (such as anxiety or depression is considered: “MAD!” Sorry for the above.

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

Yes it can be really difficult in cultures that are less tolerant of the human frailties that exist in all of us. The good news is that there are things we can do on our own to strengthen and heal ourselves. The ideas in this article can be done by anyone of any age without outside support. Hopefully the world will keep working on acceptance and understanding of our very human vulnerabilities.

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Nick H

Thanks for all those tips, I have recently developed GAD and have found it hard to cope :/ I need to reread through this all as it is alot to take in but judging by the comments its certainly helpful info! Hopefully I can work through my anxiety like others have

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

You’re very welcome Nick. I love how open you are to the info. There are definitely things you can do to help manage your GAD. Mindfulness and exercise are particularly powerful ways to strengthen your brain against anxiety. You may have read these but this one explains why mindfulness is powerful http://www.heysigmund.com/overcoming-anxiety-mindfulness/ and this one talks about the way exercise changes the brain http://www.heysigmund.com/activity-restores-vital-neurochemical-protects-anxietyepression/.

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Kit

I am currently dealing with some relationship issues. All issues I have made up in my head. I have been accused of being insecure and extremely Jealous but what I am starting to wonder if its a mild jealousy that is stoked by anxiety. I have recently found that just the smallest thought triggers this nervous gut wrenching sickness in my stomach and I almost feel like I’m in a panic attack. I do see someone for these issues but would like to be able to avoid anymore meds than I need to have. I am going to talk with my therapist about your article and see what she thinks and perhaps it could help before I loose my 11year relationship (if I haven’t lost it already 🙁 )

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

Kit it’s very possible that this could be happening. Anxiety can be really intrusive in relationships when it does this. Know that you’re not alone – the problem is a common one. Mindfulness will help you to see your thoughts as an ‘observer’. This stops them from digging in and becoming feelings, such as jealousy. Try to start with 10 minutes once or twice a day (twice a day whenever you can). If you have an anxious mind, you may find that during mindfulness your thoughts tend to wander to the ‘what-ifs’. This is okay and completely normal. Be patient and consistent with the practice. You’re teaching your mind a new way to do things, and it might resist a little at first. This is nothing to worry about, and stick with it – it will just be a matter of time before you start to see positive changes.

Also, try to do strong deep breathing when you start to panic. This will induce the relaxation response, which will instantly start to calm the nervous system and neutralise the neurochemicals that surge through you when anxiety is triggered. It can be difficult to remember to do strong breathing when your brain is busy being anxious, so try to have a reminder – maybe a band around your wrist or something like that, just until your brain gets used to accessing strong deep breathing during anxiety.

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Megan

Kit,
I’m having the exact issues you described! The racing mind, sick feeling and the accusations of insecurity.
I had a bad panic attack last night and I feel like I haven’t slept in days …
I’m so thankful to have found this article! It couldn’t have come at a better time.
I just want to get back to that fun secure person I was

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Susan

Thank you for this article. My mom has stage IV cancer and my dad needs a kidney and liver transplant and they are only 60. I am having such a tough time dealing with this because I am constantly worrying about the what ifs. It’s all I think about and it is starting to interfere with everything. I just want to go to sleep so I won’t have to think about it. The anxiety feels like it is suffocating me and I feel like I am useless to my parents and siblings that need me to be strong. I am the oldest and I feel a responsibility to protect my brother and sister. I really think this techniques will help me especially living in the present. Right now they are both doing well under the circumstances but I can’t even be happy with them worrying about what is going to happen. I bottle it up and then when we get home from work I unload on my husband. It has to be exhausting for him and it is really exhausting for me too. I want to enjoy the time we have without constantly trying to figure out the future. I am going to start practicing right now. Thank you again!

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Shannon

I have saved this article and read it everytime after a panic attack. I find these steps to releasing my mind very helpful and the continued reading takes me to a safer place that I can manage my worry and anexity. My major anxiety came on 4 years ago (I am now 40) during a highly stressful job. I went into the family business and lately find myself really worrying about my parents future if I fail at this. Times are slow and things are tight and the thought of them with little weighs very high. While all the steps are great tools, steps 5 and 8 have really resonated with me as I progress through my challenges of calming and working through my anxiety. While I work through some of the calming steps first I always come back and re read these steps a couple of times to reconfirm my mind of the direction we are heading. Till the next time I read the article…….thanks for the assistance.

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

You’re so welcome Shannon. Whatever happens with your family business, your parents are lucky to have you fighting so hard for it to work. I’m so pleased the article is able to give you the comfort you need.

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John

I rarely comment on online post/articles,
But i must say, this is THE BEST i have ever seen!

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Julie

Sometimes I just need to stop and remember these things, and finding this today was perfect timing, because I couldn’t this morning! Thank you for sharing, as it is so easy to get wrapped up and forget, the tools I know, but don’t always utilize. I have already shared the link to your article with a friend.

Thank you for sharing!

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Caroline

I woke up and just googled ‘Dealing with anxiety’ this article is amazing and I was running late for work but decided to finish reading when i get to work. I have to say this is amazing. It gives us hope when we get to know that whatever hardships we are experiencing we are not alone. Thank you.

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Gill

I suffer horrendously from pre holiday anxiety every year and analyse everything about it. Feeling guilty about stressing about something ‘stupid’ makes it worse. I came across your article and it just clicked. I have stopped questioning and fighting it and feel human again! Thank you so much!

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Neal

Thanks for the article. I’ve been dealing with anxiety my whole life but I always thought it was normal and everyone thought this way, its only been this last year (im in my 30`s) where ive been able to put a name to it, realise its not normal and actually talk to people about it.
Its do debilitating, as an example I can do a job in the house and the next thing I know im imagining im going to cause someone an injury with the work ive done no matter how small or insignificant the job was. Everything I do seems to bring about an ultimate worse case scenario in my head and as yet, the worst has never happened!
The worst part of it all is I can spend several days imagining this worst case scenario and when it passes, those days are gone and ive missed so many things happening in my life because I wasn’t present mentally, I was on auto pilot.
There are even times where my anxiety has cause me to make rash decisions which has actually brought the very thing I feared happening into reality, had I thought and made decisions with a clear mind the bad things wouldn’t have happened!

Its good to read that im not alone and ill be trying these techniques, so thanks for sharing!

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

Neal you are so not alone! There are so many people who struggle with anxiety – you would be amazed! I hope the strategies are able to help you to find more calm and give you what you need to feel more settled and make decisions that are more life-giving for you.

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Pj

Thank you for the article…

I went through college and got a great job. I have an amazing girlfriend and am doing okay. Last year someone stole our car, that was when I really started to feel anxious about things. A few months ago our rent payment didn’t go through because of an error in the system, we were sent an eviction notice with only 3 days notice. We fixed it right away and didn’t have any problem actually paying the rent and also didn’t get evicted. Nonetheless the experience shook me, the thought of being out on the street so suddenly for something small. I also worry because my parents are getting older, approaching their late 60s and I can’t stand to think of them losing their physical and mental health. Then their are so many others to worry about. I’m not sure if anxiety is even what this is, but I am constantly worrying about things going wrong. This article provided some eye opening information to me. So thank you for that, hopefully it will help. I think you have probably helped many people out, and that is an amazing and absolutely great thing!

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

It sounds like a frightening experience you went through. It’s understandable that it would have left you shaken. I’m pleased you found the article and hope it’s able to bring you some comfort and ease your worries moving forward.

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Erica

I am dealing with anxiety attacks a lot. I am in stage 5 kidney failure. I had a severe anxiety attack at dialysis on Saturday. I didn’t wat to tell the nurses because I am afraid they will think I am crazy. I am ashamed of myself and that makes my anxiety worse. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed.

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Karen - Hey Sigmund

Erica I promise you – the nurses will NOT think you’re crazy. Anxiety is so common. The nurses would be very familiar with anxiety. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your mind – it’s into protective mode (which is what anxiety is) and this is so completely understandable given your circumstances. I understand you feel embarrassed and ashamed – it sounds as though this is a very unfamiliar experience for you – but please know how alone you aren’t with this. So many people experience anxiety and it has nothing at all to do with strength, character or courage. You are going through something difficult and you are doing hard things – of course the potential will be there for you to be anxious about it. Please speak to the nurses – they’ll understand, they really will.

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Bianca

What an inspiring article, I am dealing with anxiety now but I know these encouraging words will help me get through the hard times.!1

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