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There will be new videos added constantly. If what you’re looking for isn’t there, let me know – I’d love to hear. One thing is for certain, if you’re wondering about something, loads of other people will be too. It takes a village.

The video library is divided into three sections:

The Sunroom

For everyone

The Treehouse

Especially for kids

The Rooftop

Especially for teens

So … what’s it all about?

Being human is an, exciting, messy, ridiculous, sometimes brutal, sometimes glorious adventure. At different times we will have all thrived, struggled, loved and lost and from all of this, we grow – wiser, stronger, braver, better than before – because that’s what being human is about. The video library is a roadmap towards strength, happiness and empowerment, full of information and strategies to master the beautifully imperfect art of being human. 

Here’s what you need to know straight up – you have everything inside you to lead a happy, healthy life. Sometimes it’s about knowing where to look, or about knowing what to do with it when you find it. A solid pulse will always come in handy, but to live – really live – it’s about knowing where to find that well inside you that has all the courage, wisdom and strength you need to make life-giving, empowered decisions. 

Who are the videos for?

The videos are for everyone – adults, teens, kids, parents, counsellors, teachers, health professionals … and the list goes on. If you are any version of human – strengthened, enlightened, depressed, anxious, empowered, disempowered, hurting or happy – you will gain valuable insights and information through the videos. 

As well as this, the videos will provide the support and information for any children or teens in your life to be the extraordinary adults they are capable of being. (Oh if only we all knew this way back when!)

If you are open to new information and new ways of doing things, there will be something here for you. When we know how things work, we can actively change them in ways that work for us – but information is key. Here you will find solid information based on real science. From this, you can make decisions about the things you want to change, do more of, less of, get rid of, or ignore like a bothersome thing.

What’s in it for me?

There’s so much to gain from psychology’s insights into way we humans think, feel, live and love. But it’s all pointless if the information isn’t delivered in a practical, interesting, jargon free way. Oh but for the love of almond croissants and all things bakery – where am I going to find that you say?

With the right information, lives change, people change and relationships change. We become better humans, partners, siblings, parents, and friends. Above all else, with the right information we become better for ourselves. It’s just the way it is.

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When things feel hard or the world feels big, children will be looking to their important adults for...

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When things feel hard or the world feels big, children will be looking to their important adults for signs of safety. They will be asking, ‘Do you think I'm safe?' 'Do you think I can do this?' With everything in us, we have to send the message, ‘Yes! Yes love, this is hard and you are safe. You can do hard things.' Even if we believe they are up to the challenge, it can be difficult to communicate this with absolute confidence. We love them, and when they're distressed, we're going to feel it. Inadvertently, we can align with their fear and send signals of danger, especially through nonverbals. What they need is for us to align with their 'brave' - that part of them that wants to do hard things and has the courage to do them. It might be small but it will be there. Like a muscle, courage strengthens with use - little by little, but the potential is always there. First, let them feel you inside their world, not outside of it. This lets their anxious brain know that support is here - that you see what they see and you get it. This happens through validation. It doesn't mean you agree. It means that you see what they see, and feel what they feel. Meet the intensity of their emotion, so they can feel you with them. It can come off as insincere if your nonverbals are overly calm in the face of their distress. (Think a zen-like low, monotone voice and neutral face - both can be read as threat by an anxious brain). Try: 'This is big for you isn't it!' 'It's awful having to do things you haven't done before. What you are feeling makes so much sense. I'd feel the same! Once they really feel you there with them, then they can trust what comes next, which is your felt belief that they will be safe, and that they can do hard things. Even if things don't go to plan, you know they will cope. This can be hard, especially because it is so easy to 'catch' their anxiety. When it feels like anxiety is drawing you both in, take a moment, breathe, and ask, 'Do I believe in them, or their anxiety?' Let your answer guide you, because you know your young one was built for big, beautiful things. It's in them. Anxiety is part of their move towards brave, not the end of it.

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Sometimes we all just need space to talk to someone who will listen without giving advice, or ...

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Sometimes we all just need space to talk to someone who will listen without giving advice, or problem solving, or lecturing. Someone who will let us talk, and who can handle our experiences and words and feelings without having to smooth out the wrinkles or tidy the frayed edges. Our kids need this too, but as their important adults, it can be hard to hush without needing to fix things, or gather up their experience and bundle it into a learning that will grow them. We do this because we love them, but it can also mean that they choose not to let us in for the wrong reasons. We can’t help them if we don’t know what’s happening in their world, and entry will be on their terms - even more as they get older. As they grow, they won’t trust us with the big things if we don’t give them the opportunity to learn that we can handle the little things (which might feel seismic to them). They won’t let us in to their world unless we make it safe for them to. When my own kids were small, we had a rule that when I picked them up from school they could tell me anything, and when we drove into the driveway, the conversation would be finished if they wanted it to be. They only put this rule into play a few times, but it was enough for them to learn that it was safe to talk about anything, and for me to hear what was happening in that part of their world that happened without me. My gosh though, there were times that the end of the conversation would be jarring and breathtaking and so unfinished for me, but every time they would come back when they were ready and we would finish the chat. As it turned out, I had to trust them as much as I wanted them to trust me. But that’s how parenting is really isn’t it. Of course there will always be lessons in their experiences we will want to hear straight up, but we also need them to learn that we are safe to come to. We need them to know that there isn’t anything about them or their life we can’t handle, and when the world feels hard or uncertain, it’s safe here. By building safety, we build our connection and influence. It’s just how it seems to work.♥️ . #parenting #parenthood #mindfulparenting

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Words can be hard sometimes. The right words can be orbital and unconquerable and hard to grab hold ...

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Words can be hard sometimes. The right words can be orbital and unconquerable and hard to grab hold of. Feelings though - they’ll always make themselves known, with or without the ‘why’. Kids and teens are no different to the rest of us. Their feelings can feel bigger than words - unfathomable and messy and too much to be lassoed into language. If we tap into our own experience, we can sometimes (not all the time) get an idea of what they might need. It’s completely understandable that new things or hard things (such as going back to school) might drive thoughts of falls and fails and missteps. When this happens, it’s not so much the hard thing or the new thing that drives avoidance, but thoughts of failing or not being good enough. The more meaningful the ‘thing’ is, the more this is likely to happen. If you can look behind the words, and through to the intention - to avoid failure more than the new or difficult experience, it can be easier to give them what they need. Often, ‘I can’t’ means, ‘What if I can’t?’ or, ‘Do you think I can?’, or, ‘Will you still think I’m brave, strong, and capable of I fail?’ They need to know that the outcome won’t make any difference at all to how much you adore them, and how capable and exceptional you think they are. By focusing on process, (the courage to give it a go), we clear the runway so they can feel safer to crawl, then walk, then run, then fly. It takes time to reach full flight in anything, but in the meantime the stumbling can make even the strongest of hearts feel vulnerable. The more we focus on process over outcome (their courage to try over the result), and who they are over what they do (their courage, tenacity, curiosity over the outcome), the safer they will feel to try new things or hard things. We know they can do hard things, and the beauty and expansion comes first in the willingness to try. . #parenting #mindfulparenting #positiveparenting #mindfulparent

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Never in the history of forever has there been such a lavish opportunity for a year to be better ...

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Never in the history of forever has there been such a lavish opportunity for a year to be better than the last. Not to be grabby, but you know what I’d love this year? Less opportunities that come in the name of ‘resilience’. I’m ready for joy, or adventure, or connection, or gratitude, or courage - anything else but resilience really. Opportunities for resilience have a place, but 2020 has been relentless with its servings, and it’s time for an out breath. Here’s hoping 2021 will be a year that wraps its loving arms around us. I’m ready for that. x

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The holidays are a wonderland of everything that can lead to hyped up, exhausted, cranky, excited, ...

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The holidays are a wonderland of everything that can lead to hyped up, exhausted, cranky, excited, happy kids (and adults). Sometimes they’ll cycle through all of these within ten minutes. Sugar will constantly pry their little mouths wide open and jump inside, routines will laugh at you from a distance, there will be gatherings and parties, and everything will feel a little bit different to usual. And a bit like magic. Know that whatever happens, it’s all part of what the holidays are meant to look like. They aren’t meant to be pristine and orderly and exactly as planned. They were never meant to be that. Christmas is about people, your favourite ones, not tasks. If focusing on the people means some of the tasks fall down, let that be okay, because that’s what Christmas is. It’s about you and your people. It’s not about proving your parenting stamina, or that you’ve raised perfectly well-behaved humans, or that your family can polish up like the catalog ones any day of the week, or that you can create restaurant quality meals and decorate the table like you were born doing it. Christmas is messy and ridiculous and exhausting and there will be plenty of frayed edges. And plenty of magic. The magic will happen the way it always happens. Not with the decorations or the trimmings or the food or the polish, but by being with the ones you love, and the ones who love you right back. When it all starts to feel too important, too necessary and too ‘un-let-go-able’, be guided by the bigger truth, which is that more than anything, you will all remember how you all felt – as in how happy they felt, how loved they felt were, how noticed they felt. They won’t care about the instagram-worthy meals on the table, the cleanliness of the floors, how many relatives they visited, or how impressed other grown-ups were with their clean faces and darling smiles. It’s easy to forget sometimes, that what matters most at Christmas isn’t the tasks, but the people – the ones who would give up pretty much anything just to have the day with you.

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