Big Feelings, Big Behaviour, Separation Anxiety, Resistance and Defiance, Peer/Sibling Clashes
Just in case you want to skip a bit …
02:28 Big feelings – what kids need from us; what’s happening in the brain during big feelings.
05:40 Why the old ways of responding to big feelings don’t work.
06:16 How the adults in a child’s life ‘wire’ the brain towards emotional self-regulation.
07:35 Why little things can feel like big things for kids, and why our response matters.
09:15 How to respond to big feelings in the moment.
10:07 When their big feelings trigger ours.
11:14 Big feelings have a job to do.
14:50 During a big feeling – connection, intensity, and how to calm the feeling brain.
16:35 Their calm starts with ours.
17:35 Tantrums are opportunities.
19:47 The conversation when big feelings have calmed.
21:44 Making space for big feelings.
22:18 How tiredness and hunger can fuel big feelings.
24:08 Big behaviour is a reflection of a brain that is still developing.
25:11 Overstimulation, understimulation, and big behaviour.
25:58 And sometimes, big behaviour means they need a little more of you.
27:10 Separation anxiety – why it happens, what to do.
32:00 When kids say ‘No!’ (when you want them to say yes).
36:22 When ‘No!’ turns into a tantrum.
37:30 Peer/sibling clashes.
41:38 How to nurture empathy.